Over a third of British women in a relationship do not have interest in sex. Photo: Shutterstock. Are the results from a recent BMJ Open study really that surprising?
Loss of libido sex drive is a common problem affecting up to one in five men — and even more women — at some point in their life. If you're concerned about your libido, especially if your diminished sex drive distresses you or affects your relationship, make an appointment to see your GP to discuss any underlying causes and possible medical or psychological treatments. In the meantime, you may find the following information useful.
Relationship issues, anger, and resentment towards themselves all result from unaddressed sex drive issues. Cultural aspects of a women's upbringing, such as religion and subtle messages about female body anatomy passed through generations, also affect women's sexuality. Familial and cultural influences have a lot to do with the psychological aspect of female sexuality.
New research is demonstrating what many people already knew from experience: Women lose interest in sex over time, while men don't. The finding has the potential to help couples, the researchers said. Knowing that many women's sexual desire diminishes over the course of a relationship could encourage both partners to be more realistic about their sex lives, and could help them weather the changes in desire as they occur.
There are many reasons why people might lose interest in sex. Some people are simply too busy and their lives are so full that they have no capacity for sexual activity in their waking hours. And some people have never or hardly ever experienced a truly fulfilling sexual interaction that they gradually gave up on sex altogether.
The secret code of the female libido has been notoriously hard to crack. It seems science has it all figured out when it comes to helping boners stand at full attention, but when it comes to vaginas, well, it becomes way more complicated. One of the biggest reasons is that sex drive in women can't be boiled down to just getting one organ to do its job.
Having a different sex drive than your partner can be a tough obstacle to overcome. Of course, there is no magic number of times you should be having sex, but if you feel like you're just not enjoying sex like you used to or don't want to have sex as often than you used to, you might be suffering from a low sex drive. While you won't know for sure what the culprit is until you talk with a doctor, these common reasons for low libido may point you in the right direction.
Your sexual drive can stay high late in life, but often your energy for sex can diminish. Low energy not only affects your sex life, but can carry over to other parts of your life, too. You can become apathetic, no longer find pleasure in favorite activities, and become more sedentary.
Every relationship can go through dry spells when your partner is suddenly less interested in sex than you. It may a short-term problem related to stress at work or other issues that have driven your partner to distraction. Even more commonly, a sudden, hectic schedule—ranging from end-of-year exams to a do-or-die work deadline—can leave your partner exhausted and uninterested in anything more than sleep or a night in front of the TV.
Low sex drive in women has many potential causes, including underlying medical issues, emotional or psychological problems, or work- and family-related stress. The good news is that identifying the root cause of low libido can lead to effective treatment options. It is not unusual for couples to have a disparity in their sex drives. More often than not, in a heterosexual relationship, it's the woman who has the lower libidoaccording to research published by the Journal of the American Medical Association JAMA.