Despite all the warnings and criticism, four out of five parents still spank their kids. Many experts believe the negative consequences outweigh any behavior benefits. Who's right?
Just how do you go about administering discipline for a stinky attitude or other problems as your child edges into adolescence? Admittedly, what follows is just an overview, but you should find these pointers helpful:. Affirm your love.
In an ideal world, spanking would never happen. However, some parents feel that on rare occasions it may be necessary to smack their child's bottom. This article does not intend to either promote or discourage spanking, but rather is intended to give parents the facts, and when necessary, the correct instruction on how to spank your child in the safest way.
Spanking looks to be instantly effective. If a child is misbehaving—if he keeps swearing, or playing with matches—and then you spank that child, the behavior stops immediately. The effect is so apparently obvious that it can drive a sort of delusion.
The American Academy of Pediatrics strengthened its advice against corporal punishment in update guidelines, saying it makes kids more aggressive and raises the risk of mental health issues. We can do better. Today, AmerAcadPeds put out a new policy against spanking.
A new study found a correlation between children who are hit or spanked as a form of punishment and an increased likeliness of physically abusing romantic partners in adulthood. Although the research could not prove that one directly caused the other, it serves as yet another piece of data to suggest that corporal punishment could do more harm than good. For the research published Tuesday in the Journal of Pediatricsresearchers from the University of Texas Medical Branch followed high school students from all over Texas.
Some forums can only be seen by registered members. The spankings didn't work on me. I felt humiliated and was forever resentful. It was probably more effective with my brothers, who are made of tougher stuff.
Bookmark This Page. At what ages spanking should be used is almost as controversial as the issue of whether children should be spanked at all. I believe spanking should start at age three and continue to be used into the middle teenage years.
There is a classic story about the mother who believed in spanking as a necessary part of discipline until one day she observed her three- year-old daughter hitting her one-year-old son. Children love to imitate, especially people whom they love and respect. The same discipline techniques you employ with your children are the ones they are most likely to carry on in their own parenting. The family is a training camp for teaching children how to handle conflicts.